The ripple effects of publishing He Wrote It Down, a powerful story of sexual abuse and healing that went viral in 2015
Why childhood traumas are especially devastating (and how to begin healing from them)
How to tell your shame story so that it stops telling itself through your dysfunctional behaviors
The difference between writing from a scar and writing from a wound (and how to use both styles safely)
Why women in particular struggle to set healthy boundaries (and how to change that)
How to safeguard your own peace and sobriety “like a junkyard dog”
Sound Bytes from Laura’s Interview:
“It was enormously healing … to be led through our story [of abuse] by someone who wasn’t IN our story …. For both Mary and for me, that was the first time I’d ever made it all the way through my story without having to comfort someone else.”
“You think you know what people’s lives are, and so frequently, we don’t. Especially with something that’s so drenched in shame, like sexual abuse. … I remember saying to Mary, ‘I wish our story was extraordinary.’ It’s not. There is nothing extraordinary about our story. The only thing that’s different about it is that we’re telling it.”
“When I wasn’t telling my story, my story was telling itself in other ways in my life. It was making itself known.”
“Kids have a limited understanding of the world to begin with. And so when you get dealt these facts, the facts of your trauma, you don’t understand them, and so you build story around them. But sometimes the story you build around them is at least as harmful as the trauma.”
“When we’re children, our stories get entrusted to the adults in our lives, and sometimes they’re unreliable narrators.”
“If you have a story you’re not telling anywhere in your life, dollars to donuts it’s a shame story … and that is absolutely in charge of your life.”
“If you’re unwilling to deal with that original wound, you will seek out voluntary pains left, right, and center.”
“Girls are raised to be nice … and nice has nothing to do with kindness. Nice is about appeasement, and yielding, and accommodating, and making sure that no one else is ever uncomfortable. And that does not make for good boundary setting.”
“When you see a woman with healthy boundaries, she’s gonna get called a lot of names.”
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