Meet Caroline

I write about forgetting and remembering.

My favorite narrative arc goes like this: “Caroline forgets that everyone, including her, is irreversibly, unconditionally loved. Myriad struggles ensue. Then – jubilation! – she remembers.”

It’s funny how often I forget basic spiritual truths. For example, I have a tendency to look for peace and contentment everywhere except where I can actually find them: within.

I persist in thinking that if I can just get everything under control … if I can get all my ducks in a row … then I will be happy.

You’d think I’d have learned by now that this is crazy. I can effect personal change – by showing up and showing love, by being brave and telling the truth – but I am not in charge of capital-L Life.

You’d think I’d have figured out that my plans are not the be-all and end-all. After all, my very best experiences and relationships have taken me completely by surprise.

But no. I have amnesia, and I want to drive the bus.

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Light-bulb moment at TEDxBirmingham’s 2016 All Star Salon; photo credit Kate Rexrode Smith Photography. Looking for a virtual resume, including a more traditional bio? Visit CarolineMcGraw.com.

Want to know what I’m like? I am like Dory from Finding Nemo. I have a kind heart, a lot of enthusiasm, and a short-term memory issue.

As such, I keep asking Life if She and I could just pull over and swap places, if I could please be in control of everything for a bit.

Fortunately, Life knows me better than I know myself. When I try to take Her seat, She doesn’t get offended.

Instead, She just smiles at me with infinite kindness. She listens as I rant about how things should be.

She waits for me to remember what I already know, which is that She’s Love, and She’s taking me – taking all of us – home.

Won’t you join us on the journey?

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