“Today was awesome … Thank you for opening my eyes and sharing your beautiful stories.”
“I was so, so thankful for your level of openness … Your story moved me.”
“Excellent.” “Fantastic.” “Beautiful.”
Want to hear people saying these things at your next event?
Email caroline [at] awishcomeclear [dot] com to request a keynote, breakout session, interview, or presentation.
Speaking at TEDxBirmingham’s 2016 All Star Salon; photo credit Kate Rexrode Smith Photography
Caroline Garnet McGraw is an author, speaker, and coach who helps people who are really good at doing what they’re “supposed to” do, to start doing what they’re MEANT to do. She’s the author of You Don’t Owe Anyone: Free Yourself from the Weight of Expectations, inspired by her viral essay on The Huffington Post. You Don’t Owe Anyone has sold over 5000 copies and has been translated into three languages. Caroline is also the creator of A Wish Come Clear, an online community of thousands trading perfectionism for possibility.
Caroline’s writing has been featured on many major websites including Glennon Doyle’s and Gretchen Rubin’s, and she was quoted in a Harvard Business Review cover story. Caroline has given two popular TEDx talks and keynote presentations across the country. She has created several interview series featuring New York Times bestselling authors Adam Grant, Amy Cuddy, Julie Barton, Rachel Macy Stafford, and Tal Ben-Shahar. In addition to her work coaching private clients, Caroline has served as a coach for one of INC 5000’s fastest-growing companies.
Caroline has been self-employed since 2011; previously, she served as a Program Director for L’Arche Greater Washington DC, closely supporting individuals with disabilities. She graduated cum laude from Vassar College, with distinguished departmental honors in English and membership in Phi Beta Kappa. Caroline lives in Florence, Alabama with her family.
Short Radio-Style Bio
Caroline Garnet McGraw is the author of You Don’t Owe Anyone: Free Yourself from the Weight of Expectations; the book has sold over 5000 copies and has been translated into three languages. Caroline is also a two-time TEDx speaker and coach for recovering perfectionists. As the creator of the website A Wish Come Clear, she supports thousands of people in trading perfectionism for possibility. Caroline lives in Florence, Alabama with her family.
Past Speaking Engagements & Praise
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Most requested keynote and workshop topics include:
How to live like you don’t owe anyone
How to trade perfectionism for possibility
How to make progress on your purpose
How to gain clarity and build confidence
Sample Interview Questions, You Don’t Owe Anyone
What’s the story behind the title, You Don’t Owe Anyone? Where did that come from? Why is it so meaningful?
How did you become aware that there was a link between perfectionism and lack of freedom? Isn’t striving for excellence a positive trait?
In the book’s Introduction, you talk about how perfectionism arises as a response to trauma. What does that mean? What about people who don’t think they have trauma, but struggle with perfectionism?
In your book you also talk about perfectionism, people-pleasing, and self-harming as addictive behaviors, regardless of whether or not there are substances involved. What’s the connection there?
I’ve heard you say, “I was in a cult, and I was good at it” – what’s the story there? How might readers who haven’t had that experience still see themselves in that part of your story?
Where do all of our strict internal rules come from? Why do we effectively make our own inner prisons? What has helped you to free yourself?
What if you are aware of a certain a truth on the mental level – for example, you might say, Okay, I can sort of accept the idea that I’m free, or I don’t owe anyone – but that awareness isn’t reaching your heart or changing how you feel? What do you do when you’ve tried so hard to wrap your mind around an issue like this, but you don’t feel any better emotionally?
What do you say to people who ask, “Isn’t it dangerous to go with your heart rather than playing by the rules? What if you lose friendships? What if people get mad at you?”
What are your top tips for others who are terrified of making a mistake? What would you say to someone who thinks, “I can’t trust myself, I’m not good enough” … ?
What does life look like when you’re not micromanaging, controlling, and trying so hard to get everything exactly right? What happens when you take the pressure off? Is there something scary about asking, “Who am I without that?”