Start Here

Did you know that certain Native American artisans weave small, purposeful mistakes into their blankets?

These master craftspeople include intentional slip-ups in their best work. Why? Because they believe that the “mistake” is the very space that allows Spirit to move in and out of the fabric.

Take a moment and let that sink in. Then ask yourself …

What if the mistakes you wish you hadn’t made could be openings for Spirit in your life?

If that question freaks you out a little, I understand. I’m Caroline Garnet McGraw, author of You Don’t Owe Anyone: Free Yourself from the Weight of Expectations (Broadleaf Books, 2021).

I’ve spent most of my life in abject terror of making mistakes. But little by little, I’m trading perfectionism for possibility.

I invite you to join me and thousands of fellow pilgrims on the journey to get past perfect and rise up real.

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12 thoughts on “Start Here

  1. Bea says:

    I was so blessed to hear you speak today at the autism conference. Thank you for sharing with us a part of your world. I so wish my daughter was there to hear you. You are inspiring and loving and so giving. My son is now 10 yrs. old with autism. What you shared was moving yet uplifting at the same time. Learning to live in the moment and just give thanks for that moment. You said it well. I wish you all the best and will be following your blog!

    • Bea, thank you very much – it was my pleasure! I’m so glad the stories resonated with you, and I wish you and your family all the best as well – looking forward to seeing you ‘around the blog’! 🙂

  2. I couldn’t manage to leave a reply to your beautiful article ‘Tired of rushing around,’ so decided to leave on here instead. What a beautiful article. And thanks for sharing the link to Hannahs fabulous article as well 🙂 I have been struggling myself since returning from a 5 month over seas trip to experience happiness right at home and live in the moment for today. I have been caught straight back up in life’s ‘business’. Reading these two articles has inspires me to get in touch with friends I have not yet seen since returning and be content right where I am today. I also wrote an article slightly similar last week on the decisions we make and our pursuit for happiness. It’s called ‘Are you someone who works too hard? A reflection on life’s little decisions,’ if you are interested, I think you would enjoy it. Anyway, here’s the link if you are:
    Thanks for sharing an inspiring read and making my day a little brighter 🙂

    • Thank you, Kristie! I appreciate your sharing, and admire your courage in making choices that bring you joy. And yes, I can definitely relate to the ‘working too hard’ concept – as a recovering perfectionist, I need regular reminders that it’s OK to rest, have fun, and enjoy this beautiful life. 🙂

  3. Nick says:

    Hello! Just finished your “Walking Out” article and I feel like I’ve met a new friend who GETS IT.
    So happy to be here at your awesome site and so so happy to know I’m not alone in my weird little guilty, shame-filled, “never good enough”, perfectionism -ness and just trying to live a beautiful blessed life.
    So much love to you, friend.
    Glad to be in your tribe.

  4. Lisa says:

    Guilt says, “I’ve done something bad.”
    Shame says, “I am bad.”

    Learning, understanding and living the difference is liberating.
    Thank you for your work.

  5. Gail Bisiack says:

    You are Amazing Caroline! My beautiful daughter sent you to me… both are my wonderful angels! My daughter took me to the hospital for some tests that I’ve ignored far too long! I’m 72 married to a retired police officer (78) that I’m trying to take care of….at times Very daunting! I found out that I have an ulcer yesterday. Is it time to take care of myself? Hell YES! Love reading all of your articles!!! Thank you Very Much to You and my Daughter!!!!! Life is too short and as my darling daughter tell me,”Mom look up instead of down!” Thank you! (((Hugs!))) Gail Septembe 2nd 2018

    • Gail, what a wonderful comment to receive – thank you! I’m so glad that you and your daughter have found this site as a place that helps you to “look up instead of down” – that’s all I could wish for.

      I’m sorry to hear about your ulcer and hope that it heals swiftly. It’s fitting that you commented today, actually, as I just completed an interview with an expert on self-care! Looking forward to sharing it with you in a few months when The Clarity Course launches on October 15th. Big hugs back to you. 🙂

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