Get Past Perfect and Rise Up Real.

Did you know that certain Native American artisans weave small, purposeful mistakes into their blankets?

These master craftspeople include intentional slip-ups in their best work. But why?

Because they believe that the “mistake” is the very space that allows Spirit to move in and out of the fabric.

Take a moment and let that sink in. Then ask yourself …

What if the mistakes you wish you hadn’t made could be openings for Spirit in your life?

If that question freaks you out a little, I understand.

I’m Caroline Garnet McGraw, and I’m a recovering perfectionist. (And workaholic and codependent and people-pleaser. You know, just the usual.)

I’ve spent most of my life in abject terror of making mistakes. But in 2011, I started this blog as an account of the journey to get past perfect and rise up real.

A Wish Come Clear is about the lifelong odyssey that we take to come home to ourselves and each other.

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How Does She Do It All?

“How do moms of young kids do it all?”

That listener question cracked me up. The simple answer is that they don’t! No one does. The idea of “doing it all” is a myth.

Every day, we make trade-offs. If we do this, that means that we don’t do that.

So, the question isn’t, “How does she do it all?”

Rather, the question is, “What matters most to you, personally? What do you choose, today?”

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What to Do When You’re Drowning in Overwhelm

“Help, I’m overwhelmed! If you are feeling overwhelmed, how to do you slow down to know what to focus on? 

Should I focus on decluttering and mediation first then let whatever happens happens or should I actively try to find my purpose?”

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The Price We Pay for Delaying Decisions

What do you do when you’re not sure about a decision?

If you’re like me, you debate it endlessly in your own mind. You go over the pros and cons. You try very hard to figure out what the best choice might be.

But all of this striving is exhausting. And often, we expend so much effort trying to make the “perfect” decision that we don’t make a choice at all. 

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