You know what’s really tiring, what drains the life out of so many of us each day? The belief that we should be someone we’re not … a fantasy self, if you will.
Our fantasy self is the one who will read all of the books in our backlog and cook all of the fancy magazine-style meals.
For example, I used to persist in the belief that if I’d just print out enough recipes or receive enough cookbooks for Christmas, then surely I’d become the kind of person who cooks for fun.
(This picture totally represents my fantasy self.)
Finally I figured out that – at least for the foreseeable future – I’m just not that person. Though I like the idea of cooking, Real Caroline would rather be reading.
I prefer to prepare a quick, healthy salad or green smoothie and then get right back to my book or blog post.
For the longest time, I couldn’t accept that. So I gathered cookbooks and recipes and used them to shame myself: “Why can’t you get your act together and make something? Why don’t you want to cook, like you’re supposed to? What’s wrong with you?”
Shame is super-tiring. Every time I glanced at my recipe pile, I’d feel my energy ebb away. But when I finally recycled those papers and donated the cookbooks, I felt … free.
This is why I love decluttering: because it’s a practical, tangible way to release our Fantasy Selves and embrace our Real Selves instead.
We let physical objects pile up because we’re scared of who we’d be without them.
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