“We fear losing other people’s approval. We’re so scared of that, that’s so terrifying to us! But what actually hurts a lot more is when we completely reject ourselves.” This is a quote from my recent appearance on Claire Barton’s podcast, in an episode titled True Recovering Perfectionist.
I knew I was a perfectionist the day I got into a car crash on the way to high school.
The accident totaled our family’s pretty blue Chrysler Concorde, and I wasn’t in great shape either. Thankfully I didn’t sustain significant physical injuries, but I was hyperventilating, trembling, and generally traumatized.
Still, my tears were barely dry when I insisted on going straight to school.
Why? Well, I thought that since I’d already screwed up by getting into the accident and missing two classes, taking a day off was out of the question.
Though I would never have asked a frightened friend to soldier on like that, I demanded it of myself.
I had to keep striving. There was no room for letting myself be looked after. I couldn’t afford to make yet another mistake.
How do you resist the addictive pull of phone notifications to be present to the people around you? How do you shift from distraction to connection?
How do you find the courage to be yourself when your judgmental inner voice tells you that you have to be perfect?
How do you make peace with your past mistakes and enjoy your life here and now?
Welcome to the second edition of our new video interview series, You Need to Read. Today, we’re discussing these powerful questions with author and speaker Rachel Macy Stafford!