Are You Hiding Behind “I Don’t Know”?

Have you ever spent a day just noticing how many times you hear the phrase I don’t know … ?

If so, then you know this to be true: We have a don’t-know epidemic on our hands. To wit, here are a few listener questions from The Clarity Course Series survey.

“I don’t even know where to start … I know very little about technology and the industry. I have so many ideas and interests it is hard to choose where to start.”

“What if I don’t know what I really want?”

Sometimes, our not-knowing is legitimate. We need to research a given topic, or get really still and listen before arriving at an answer.

But often, I don’t know is a place to hide. It’s a way of delaying action and keeping ourselves stuck.

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Making Time to Go After Goals

“How can I have the confidence to make the time to go after my goals when my brain tells me they are frivolous?”

“How can I be more efficient with my use of time … and fit exercise into an already packed schedule? [Housework, part-time employment, half-time Ph.D. studies, dependent elderly father 90 minutes away refusing to consider moving into care.]”

Boy oh boy, could I relate to these listener questions from The Clarity Course Series. Though our circumstances are different, I know what it’s like to work big goals into an already-full life.

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I Feel Bad About Myself, How Do You Get Confidence?

“Can you help me to improve my bad feeling about myself which I’ve had all through my working life (about 20 years..)?”

“What are some strategies to stay out of your own head and ignore/stop negative self talk?”

“How do I increase my confidence in myself? How can I have more confidence in me?”

These are all listener questions from The Clarity Course survey. Most of us are very familiar with that “bad feeling” about ourselves.

We’d love to feel more confident, clear, and strong … but how can we, when there are scary shadows of doubt and fear lurking in our minds?

It’s like Anne Lamott says: “My mind is like a bad neighborhood I try not to go into alone.”

If you’ve ever felt that way, then click here to watch the new, 8:08 minute video.

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