Are You Hiding Behind “I Don’t Know”?

Have you ever spent a day just noticing how many times you hear the phrase I don’t know … ?

If so, then you know this to be true: We have a don’t-know epidemic on our hands. To wit, here are a few listener questions from The Clarity Course Series survey.

“I don’t even know where to start … I know very little about technology and the industry. I have so many ideas and interests it is hard to choose where to start.”

“What if I don’t know what I really want?”

Sometimes, our not-knowing is legitimate. We need to research a given topic, or get really still and listen before arriving at an answer.

But often, I don’t know is a place to hide. It’s a way of delaying action and keeping ourselves stuck.

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You Have Got To Reach

Once upon a time, I spoke to a woman who said, “I don’t feel adequate enough to talk to you.”

How’s that for an opening?

This woman had reasons to feel less-than, stuck, and scared. To protect her privacy, I won’t share those reasons here. It suffices to say that she had a tough history.

She dreamed of helping other people,
but struggled to help herself.

When I encouraged her to get support for her journey, she made an effort and asked for help once. But when she didn’t hear back, she stopped asking.

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Make Decisions, Save Your Life

Even though I was scared, my coach challenged me to do it, so I did.

What’s that, you say? I recorded a new, vulnerable video for you. It’s based on questions I received via The Clarity Course survey …

“I want to trust my decisions, but I always see both sides (take the opportunity or don’t take). Is there a process that I can go through that will make decision making easier?”

“Best advice for someone who is struggling with the fear of uncertainty in making decisions?”

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