What to Do When You’re Drowning in Overwhelm
“Help, I’m overwhelmed! If you are feeling overwhelmed, how to do you slow down to know what to focus on? Should I focus on decluttering and mediation first then let whatever happens happens or should I actively try to find my purpose?” …
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Is It Okay to Want More?
“I am in ambivalence (or in quantum congruence?): I both think I am very happy and satisfied with my life as it is; and at the same time I think that I must serve a better purpose. Which one is true?” I love this listener question from The Clarity Course Series, because goodness knows I’ve struggled with it! Back in 2012, I constantly asked myself, “How can I want to leave my job at L’Arche when I love my friends there so much?” For months, I couldn’t come up with a good answer. …
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How Do I Stop Being a Perfectionist?
“How do I stop being a perfectionist? How do you move away from perfectionism?” These are the questions you ask, and on one level the answers are simple. We shift out of perfectionism through daily, real-world action, rewriting our old patterns of behavior and belief. But you’re not just asking for the how-to. You’re asking for the hope. You’re asking, “Is it really possible for us to change?” Let me tell you a story. …
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Make Decisions, Save Your Life
Even though I was scared, my coach challenged me to do it, so I did. What’s that, you say? I recorded a new, vulnerable video for you. It’s based on questions I received via The Clarity Course survey … “I want to trust my decisions, but I always see both sides (take the opportunity or don’t take). Is there a process that I can go through that will make decision making easier?” “Best advice for someone who is struggling with the fear of uncertainty in making decisions?” …
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“The Conditions Are Always Impossible.”
Have you ever had the experience of reading a quote that just gets under your skin and will not leave you alone? Ever read a few words and had that shivery feeling of truth spoken directly to your spirit? This is the Doris Lessing quote that’s been following me around lately: “Whatever you’re meant to do, do it now. The conditions are always impossible.” Amen to that, right? That quote has helped me so much. Since I read it, I stopped procrastinating and started writing my next book. Now, I had all kinds of reasons why the conditions were “impossible”...
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Go To The Limits Of Your Longing
Who am I to think I can do this? That’s the thought that thrummed through my brain as I took the call. I was on the phone with a coach I wanted to hire, and let’s be real: I was totally anxious about it. Sure, I’d scoured her website and watched tons of her videos. I believed that she could help me to get to my dream of building my readership and a new business too. But I was about to take action on this “crazy” idea, and it brought up ALL my stuff. …
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How Do I Stand Strong In My Decisions? (Ask Caroline Video)
“How can I have more confidence in my decision making, whether big or small? What are quick strategies to stop second guessing decisions? How to stop getting stuck and stand strong in my decisions?” Those are your words from The Confidence Course survey. In this video, I help you to identify and question the beliefs that are preventing you from making a decision and sticking to it. …
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I Never Saw It Coming: A Story of Self-Forgiveness
Something miraculous happened to me recently. The other night, I was typing at my laptop, responding to emails, ordering gifts for friends, and ignoring the drifts of cat fur that grow larger by the day. Nearly a half an hour went by before I stood up and walked toward our kitchen. It was only then that I remembered: I’d left a pot of rice cooking on the stove. “Oh no!” I yelped. “I forgot about the rice! Shoot and sugar muffins!” (If you hang around me long enough, you’ll hear creative alternatives to swear words; it’s a holdover from growing...
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Get Out of the Overwhelm Today (Ask Caroline Video)
“I’m so behind … and I don’t have the time to complete it all. My inbox is FULL of unopened emails (which is anxiety provoking because I hate having unread emails! ??). I’m so overwhelmed now, that I don’t know where to begin!” That’s one of your questions from The Confidence Course survey; in this new “Ask Caroline” video series, I coach on what matters most to you. In this video, I take you through a step by step process to help you get out of the overwhelm today. …
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Embarrassing Secrets of a Recovering Perfectionist
During my first month as a freshman at Vassar College, one of my hallmates caught me folding my dirty laundry. Yes, you read that right – I folded my dirty laundry before placing it in the collapsible navy-blue mesh hamper at the foot of my bed. It was a nervous habit that gave me a sense of control in an unfamiliar place. Of course I didn’t want anyone to know about my odd practice, so I flushed with embarrassment when my hallmate said, “Caroline, did you seriously just fold those pajamas before putting them into your hamper?” My hallmate’s tone...
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