Is It Okay to Want More?

“I am in ambivalence (or in quantum congruence?): I both think I am very happy and satisfied with my life as it is; and at the same time I think that I must serve a better purpose. Which one is true?”

I love this listener question from The Clarity Course Series, because goodness knows I’ve struggled with it!

Back in 2012, I constantly asked myself, “How can I want to leave my job at L’Arche when I love my friends there so much?”

For months, I couldn’t come up with a good answer.

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How Do I Stop Being a Perfectionist?

“How do I stop being a perfectionist? How do you move away from perfectionism?”

These are the questions you ask, and on one level the answers are simple.

We shift out of perfectionism through daily, real-world action, rewriting our old patterns of behavior and belief.

But you’re not just asking for the how-to. You’re asking for the hope. You’re asking, “Is it really possible for us to change?”

Let me tell you a story.

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Make Decisions, Save Your Life

Even though I was scared, my coach challenged me to do it, so I did.

What’s that, you say? I recorded a new, vulnerable video for you. It’s based on questions I received via The Clarity Course survey …

“I want to trust my decisions, but I always see both sides (take the opportunity or don’t take). Is there a process that I can go through that will make decision making easier?”

“Best advice for someone who is struggling with the fear of uncertainty in making decisions?”

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