Do More of What Feels Like Magic

There’s nothing kids love quite like feeling “grown up.” Give them some responsibility, and they’re hooked. At least, that’s how I felt when I worked in my dad’s home office. My dad has his own business, and when he had invoices to mail, he let me help him prepare the envelopes. This was thrilling to me. As a small child, I loved pressing the return-address stamp onto the black ink pad. I loved the stamp’s disappearing act, the swivel that made the raised letters come and go. One moment, there were no words in the upper left hand corner of ...
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Make Decisions, Save Your Life

Even though I was scared, my coach challenged me to do it, so I did. What’s that, you say? I recorded a new, vulnerable video for you. It’s based on questions I received via The Clarity Course survey … “I want to trust my decisions, but I always see both sides (take the opportunity or don’t take). Is there a process that I can go through that will make decision making easier?” “Best advice for someone who is struggling with the fear of uncertainty in making decisions?” …
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“The Conditions Are Always Impossible.”

Have you ever had the experience of reading a quote that just gets under your skin and will not leave you alone? Ever read a few words and had that shivery feeling of truth spoken directly to your spirit? This is the Doris Lessing quote that’s been following me around lately: “Whatever you’re meant to do, do it now. The conditions are always impossible.” Amen to that, right? That quote has helped me so much. Since I read it, I stopped procrastinating and started writing my next book. Now, I had all kinds of reasons why the conditions were “impossible” ...
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I Was Brave, I Resisted, I Set Myself on Fire

I had my first panic attack in the first grade, when my teacher returned my paper with “See Me” written in red ink. Getting a “See Me” meant lining up by the teacher’s desk and waiting to talk to her privately … in front of everyone. I’d always had “Excellent” on my papers before, and I thought a “See Me” meant that I’d screwed up. At six years old, I couldn’t handle that. When I walked to the front of the room, my breath came in short, fast gulps. …
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How Do I Stand Strong In My Decisions? (Ask Caroline Video)

“How can I have more confidence in my decision making, whether big or small? What are quick strategies to stop second guessing decisions? How to stop getting stuck and stand strong in my decisions?” Those are your words from The Confidence Course survey. In this video, I help you to identify and question the beliefs that are preventing you from making a decision and sticking to it. …
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I Never Saw It Coming: A Story of Self-Forgiveness

Something miraculous happened to me recently. The other night, I was typing at my laptop, responding to emails, ordering gifts for friends, and ignoring the drifts of cat fur that grow larger by the day. Nearly a half an hour went by before I stood up and walked toward our kitchen. It was only then that I remembered: I’d left a pot of rice cooking on the stove. “Oh no!” I yelped. “I forgot about the rice! Shoot and sugar muffins!” (If you hang around me long enough, you’ll hear creative alternatives to swear words; it’s a holdover from growing ...
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Get Out of the Overwhelm Today (Ask Caroline Video)

“I’m so behind … and I don’t have the time to complete it all. My inbox is FULL of unopened emails (which is anxiety provoking because I hate having unread emails! ??). I’m so overwhelmed now, that I don’t know where to begin!” That’s one of your questions from The Confidence Course survey; in this new “Ask Caroline” video series, I coach on what matters most to you. In this video, I take you through a step by step process to help you get out of the overwhelm today. …
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Embarrassing Secrets of a Recovering Perfectionist

During my first month as a freshman at Vassar College, one of my hallmates caught me folding my dirty laundry. Yes, you read that right – I folded my dirty laundry before placing it in the collapsible navy-blue mesh hamper at the foot of my bed. It was a nervous habit that gave me a sense of control in an unfamiliar place. Of course I didn’t want anyone to know about my odd practice, so I flushed with embarrassment when my hallmate said, “Caroline, did you seriously just fold those pajamas before putting them into your hamper?” My hallmate’s tone ...
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How Do I Trust Myself and My Inner Knowing? (Ask Caroline Videos)

“How can I learn to trust my inner voice and make my decisions based on it, no matter how odd or messy or random they look at the time?” That’s just one of the powerful questions posed in The Confidence Course survey earlier this year. As I read through dozens of responses, I felt motivated to answer and help. In this new “Ask Caroline” video series, I’m responding to your questions and coaching you toward greater clarity. Recovering perfectionists like us struggle to trust the apparent messiness of our intuition and the apparent randomness of our learning process. In this ...
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From Ugly Cry To Deeper Why (Vulnerable Video)

Ever have one of those days when you feel like a total failure at life? Ever get so down and discouraged that you’re tempted to give up on your goals and dreams? Me too. But fortunately, that’s not the end of the story. …
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