I Feel Bad About Myself, How Do You Get Confidence?

“Can you help me to improve my bad feeling about myself which I’ve had all through my working life (about 20 years..)?”

“What are some strategies to stay out of your own head and ignore/stop negative self talk?”

“How do I increase my confidence in myself? How can I have more confidence in me?”

These are all listener questions from The Clarity Course survey. Most of us are very familiar with that “bad feeling” about ourselves.

We’d love to feel more confident, clear, and strong … but how can we, when there are scary shadows of doubt and fear lurking in our minds?

It’s like Anne Lamott says: “My mind is like a bad neighborhood I try not to go into alone.”

If you’ve ever felt that way, then click here to watch the new, 8:08 minute video.

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How Do I Stop Being a Perfectionist?

“How do I stop being a perfectionist? How do you move away from perfectionism?”

These are the questions you ask, and on one level the answers are simple.

We shift out of perfectionism through daily, real-world action, rewriting our old patterns of behavior and belief.

But you’re not just asking for the how-to. You’re asking for the hope. You’re asking, “Is it really possible for us to change?”

Let me tell you a story.

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Do More of What Feels Like Magic

There’s nothing kids love quite like feeling “grown up.” Give them some responsibility, and they’re hooked.

At least, that’s how I felt when I worked in my dad’s home office. My dad has his own business, and when he had invoices to mail, he let me help him prepare the envelopes.

This was thrilling to me. As a small child, I loved pressing the return-address stamp onto the black ink pad. I loved the stamp’s disappearing act, the swivel that made the raised letters come and go.

One moment, there were no words in the upper left hand corner of the envelope, and then next, there were several lines of text. Amazing!

Sure, I enjoyed pressing the stamps too, but I didn’t begrudge my younger brother Willie taking on that task instead. For me, the magic was always in the words.

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