Is It Okay to Want More?

“I am in ambivalence (or in quantum congruence?): I both think I am very happy and satisfied with my life as it is; and at the same time I think that I must serve a better purpose. Which one is true?”

I love this listener question from The Clarity Course Series, because goodness knows I’ve struggled with it!

Back in 2012, I constantly asked myself, “How can I want to leave my job at L’Arche when I love my friends there so much?”

For months, I couldn’t come up with a good answer.

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Are You Hiding Behind “I Don’t Know”?

Have you ever spent a day just noticing how many times you hear the phrase I don’t know … ?

If so, then you know this to be true: We have a don’t-know epidemic on our hands. To wit, here are a few listener questions from The Clarity Course Series survey.

“I don’t even know where to start … I know very little about technology and the industry. I have so many ideas and interests it is hard to choose where to start.”

“What if I don’t know what I really want?”

Sometimes, our not-knowing is legitimate. We need to research a given topic, or get really still and listen before arriving at an answer.

But often, I don’t know is a place to hide. It’s a way of delaying action and keeping ourselves stuck.

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I Feel Bad About Myself, How Do You Get Confidence?

“Can you help me to improve my bad feeling about myself which I’ve had all through my working life (about 20 years..)?”

“What are some strategies to stay out of your own head and ignore/stop negative self talk?”

“How do I increase my confidence in myself? How can I have more confidence in me?”

These are all listener questions from The Clarity Course survey. Most of us are very familiar with that “bad feeling” about ourselves.

We’d love to feel more confident, clear, and strong … but how can we, when there are scary shadows of doubt and fear lurking in our minds?

It’s like Anne Lamott says: “My mind is like a bad neighborhood I try not to go into alone.”

If you’ve ever felt that way, then click here to watch the new, 8:08 minute video.

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