Is It Okay to Want More?

“I am in ambivalence (or in quantum congruence?): I both think I am very happy and satisfied with my life as it is; and at the same time I think that I must serve a better purpose. Which one is true?”

I love this listener question from The Clarity Course Series, because goodness knows I’ve struggled with it!

Back in 2012, I constantly asked myself, “How can I want to leave my job at L’Arche when I love my friends there so much?”

For months, I couldn’t come up with a good answer.

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Are You Hiding Behind “I Don’t Know”?

Have you ever spent a day just noticing how many times you hear the phrase I don’t know … ?

If so, then you know this to be true: We have a don’t-know epidemic on our hands. To wit, here are a few listener questions from The Clarity Course Series survey.

“I don’t even know where to start … I know very little about technology and the industry. I have so many ideas and interests it is hard to choose where to start.”

“What if I don’t know what I really want?”

Sometimes, our not-knowing is legitimate. We need to research a given topic, or get really still and listen before arriving at an answer.

But often, I don’t know is a place to hide. It’s a way of delaying action and keeping ourselves stuck.

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Making Time to Go After Goals

“How can I have the confidence to make the time to go after my goals when my brain tells me they are frivolous?”

“How can I be more efficient with my use of time … and fit exercise into an already packed schedule? [Housework, part-time employment, half-time Ph.D. studies, dependent elderly father 90 minutes away refusing to consider moving into care.]”

Boy oh boy, could I relate to these listener questions from The Clarity Course Series. Though our circumstances are different, I know what it’s like to work big goals into an already-full life.

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