Let me guess:
Lately your responsibilities feel really heavy.
Sometimes it’s too much and it’s too hard.
It’s everything: tasks as simple as the endless laundry and as complex as caring for another person.
Either way, you’ve taken on too much.
But then, that’s the story of your life, basically.
You show up.
And while you think that’s just what a good person does, you also feel stuck in that role. There’s never enough time to just be you. Being your authentic self would just be one more thing to do!
But still, part of you wonders …
What’s it like to live in alignment?
What would you stop doing, if it wasn’t selfish?
Who would you be without the weight of expectations pressing on you?
Gosh, no idea!
Yet you do know this much: You’d love some downtime. You crave time with nothing in it, time to just be still, to let the craziness stop swirling around you.
But then when you DO have pockets of time to yourself, the stillness feels terrifying. Doing nothing opens up big feelings and fear, not peace. So you hurry back to something “productive”.
And then you feel so frustrated, because wasn’t that what you wanted? Why couldn’t you rest when you had the chance?
That’s another thing: Lately, you struggle to make decisions, because you always need to know more before you can move forward.
Keep or toss?
Save or declutter?
Return the message or don’t?
What’s the best possible use of this time?
God, it’s awful inside your head sometimes.
But here’s the most painful thing:
You have this sense that you’ve lost the real, authentic you.
If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too.
I’m Caroline Garnet McGraw, author of You Don’t Owe Anyone, TEDx speaker, and coach for recovering perfectionists and people-pleasers.
In other words, I know what it’s like to live out of alignment with my true self.
I’ve come a long way from where I was – if you’ve read my book, then you know! And, it’s an ongoing journey.
Just a few weeks ago I caught myself debating whether or not to let a babysitter go. She kept canceling at the last minute, and I kept making excuses for her.
Deep down I knew that it was time to say goodbye, but I thought that I should give her another chance … because wasn’t that what a good person would do?
When I heard myself say those words out loud, it was a wake-up call.
I’ve learned that anytime I use phrases such as “I should” or “what a good person would do,” I’m off track.
Because what am I saying there, really?
Essentially, I’m saying that I am bad.
And though that belief in a sinful nature was programmed through years of indoctrination, I don’t believe that anymore.
Instead, I’m learning to trust that who I am and how I’m made is good.
To have confidence – which literally means, to have “full trust” and “fidelity” – with myself.
I’ve learned to say, “OK. Assuming that my authentic self is good, then what will I choose from here?”
Can you imagine the freedom of a life lived in alignment with your truth?
Can you imagine what it would be like to make decisions for yourself with confidence, regardless of what happens next?
Can you imagine how it would feel to be your authentic self and feel peaceful in the process?
If you want that, then this virtual retreat is for you.
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