Let me guess:
Lately your responsibilities feel really heavy.
Sometimes it’s too much and it’s too hard.
It’s everything: tasks as simple as the endless laundry and as complex as caring for another person.
Either way, you’ve taken on too much.
But then, that’s the story of your life, basically.
You show up.
And while you think that’s just what a good person does, you also feel stuck in that role. There’s never enough time to just be you. Being your authentic self would just be one more thing to do!
But still, part of you wonders …
What’s it like to live in alignment?
What would you stop doing, if it wasn’t selfish?
Who would you be without the weight of expectations pressing on you?
Gosh, no idea!
Yet you do know this much: You’d love some downtime. You crave time with nothing in it, time to just be still, to let the craziness stop swirling around you.
But then when you DO have pockets of time to yourself, the stillness feels terrifying. Doing nothing opens up big feelings and fear, not peace. So you hurry back to something “productive”.
And then you feel so frustrated, because wasn’t that what you wanted? Why couldn’t you rest when you had the chance?
That’s another thing: Lately, you struggle to make decisions, because you always need to know more before you can move forward.
Keep or toss?
Save or declutter?
Return the message or don’t?
What’s the best possible use of this time?
God, it’s awful inside your head sometimes.
But here’s the most painful thing:
You have this sense that you’ve lost the real, authentic you.
If this resonates with you, know that you’re not alone. I’ve been there, too.
I’m Caroline Garnet McGraw, author of You Don’t Owe Anyone, TEDx speaker, and coach for recovering perfectionists and people-pleasers.
In other words, I know what it’s like to live out of alignment with my true self.
I’ve come a long way from where I was – if you’ve read my book, then you know! And, it’s an ongoing journey.
Just a few weeks ago I caught myself debating whether or not to let a babysitter go. She kept canceling at the last minute, and I kept making excuses for her.
Deep down I knew that it was time to say goodbye, but I thought that I should give her another chance … because wasn’t that what a good person would do?
When I heard myself say those words out loud, it was a wake-up call.
I’ve learned that anytime I use phrases such as “I should” or “what a good person would do,” I’m off track.
Because what am I saying there, really?
Essentially, I’m saying that I am bad.
And though that belief in a sinful nature was programmed through years of indoctrination, I don’t believe that anymore.
Instead, I’m learning to trust that who I am and how I’m made is good.
To have confidence – which literally means, to have “full trust” and “fidelity” – with myself.
I’ve learned to say, “OK. Assuming that my authentic self is good, then what will I choose from here?”
Can you imagine the freedom of a life lived in alignment with your truth?
Can you imagine what it would be like to make decisions for yourself with confidence, regardless of what happens next?
Can you imagine how it would feel to be your authentic self and feel peaceful in the process?
If you want that, then this virtual retreat is for you.
Join me for …
Authentic Alignment Retreat
Monday, September 5, 2022 (Labor Day Holiday, US)
12:00pm-3:00pm Central Daylight Time, on Zoom
Your virtual retreat ticket ($397 value) also comes with these special bonus gifts…
One Bring A Friend Ticket
- A FREE ticket for your best friend to attend with you.
The Pursue Your Path Series: How women who are GREAT at doing what they're supposed to do, start doing what they're MEANT to do.
- Interview series with top experts including a New York Times bestselling author, the Harvard professor who created the university’s most popular course, and many more.
You Don't Owe Anyone: Free Yourself from the Weight of Expectations
- A complimentary print copy of Caroline’s book!
“I’m grateful for the opportunity to work with Caroline. When I started coaching, I had a hard time doing anything that wasn’t ‘productive’. I was struggling with negative spirals, and something had to give. I was constantly in service of my family’s needs, asking, ‘Where is the life I have lost in living?’ But since, I’ve started to find it again.
I’ve been able to connect with what is true for me, who I am, and what I want. Specifically, I’ve been able to do nothing for more than 15 minutes (something I didn’t think I could do!). I’ve also resumed art therapy just for joy, and I sat down and read fiction – for the first time in years. I’m starting to imagine new possibilities where I couldn’t see any before.
The tools Caroline has taught me have been so valuable, but what I value even more highly is her ability to be a vulnerable yet strong guide. It’s a gift to work with her.”
“With Caroline by my side, I feel my self-development has taken on a much quicker pace, as life consistently confronts me with new possibilities for great insights and self-improvement – and she is there to help me embody and live these insights.
I know I am finally on my path. Not the one I thought I needed to be on, not the one I took on half-heartedly because it was expected of me; but really, truly my path. And I have new-found strength and newly learned skills to walk this path and finally enjoy the process.”
“It is no coincidence I am coaching with you. I was led to you for this very work and we are doing an amazing job together. Thank you for the beautiful space you give me.
You have a knack for meeting me wherever I am and leading me to unravel whatever it is that is holding me stuck. Somehow you hone in on the important things and let the rest flow by and I end up feeling like a superstar for working through it. The feeling of not feeling stuck anymore is such a relief. Energy is flowing again, I’m light and joyous, my essence can come through again.
And every time I think, “This; this moment is worth the cost of the whole program. If this is the only breakthrough I have the whole time I’m happy with this.”
You can wake up in the morning and feel peaceful.
You can live your truth with confidence and clarity.
You can look at your life and feel like you hit the jackpot.
This is not too much to ask.
And it’s all here waiting for you.
Seeing new possibilities is only half the equation.
The other half is giving yourself permission to take clear, confident action.