Why Do I Feel Bad When I Spend Money On Myself?

I used to have so much trouble spending money “just for me.” In college, I worked three jobs, volunteered, and tithed hundreds of dollars to my church … and I couldn’t pull the trigger on a $15 gift for myself. Before I graduated from Vassar, I wanted to buy a coffee mug from my favorite cafe … but I couldn’t do it. Spending money on that “selfish” purchase was too anxiety-producing. Why do I feel bad when I spend money on myself? I wondered.  …
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Let’s Be Brave and Talk About Race: Interview with Krystle Cobran

My church friend and I were only about 7 years old when she leaned over in my ear and whispered, “Sometimes black people are so … scary.” We were standing in the hallway of the rented central New Jersey auditorium where we had church services. It was a diverse congregation – much more so than my suburban neighborhood – and a bunch of black kids had run by us, laughing and shouting, raucous in play. It was the start of my first conversation about race. I can still remember the shock of that moment, the twist in my stomach at...
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The Day I Threw Them All Away

You guys, I finally did it. I finally got rid of my old business cards. It wasn’t an easy choice to make. I’d been so proud when I ordered them! They had really pretty pictures! Wasn’t it wasteful to let them go? Earlier this week, though, I finally tossed the remaining stacks into the recycling. Why? Because I got clear on one thing: Keeping those cards meant holding onto the past. …
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The Clarity Course: Handle Doubt, Get Unstuck, and Live Your Purpose!

“It might sound crazy, but I feel like there’s something MORE that I’m supposed to be doing with my life. I don’t know what it is, exactly, but I really need to get clear on it!” If I had a dollar for every time I heard that, I’d be swimming in a pool of money like Scrooge McDuck. So many of us feel this deep desire for clarity, but self-doubt keeps us stuck. …
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