The Four Magic Words (You’ll Never Guess)

If you’ve already read my new book, You Don’t Owe Anyone, then you know that I’ve dreamed of becoming a published author ever since I was six years old. When my first grade teacher helped our class make our own hardcover books, I was hooked. She told us that authors were people whose job it was to make books. I thought that nothing could be cooler than that. (My first book, age 6) (My new book, age 35) Fast-forward about 30 years. After decades of diligent reading, writing, and study, that original dream has come true today. You Don’t Owe ...
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Top 25 Answers to YOUR Questions, Revealed

Dear ones, A Wish Come Clear turned 10 years old last week, but most of you reading now have joined us in the last 2 years. As I reviewed your great listener questions from The Pursue Your Path Series, I realized that there are SO MANY buried treasures in the blog archives that effectively answer your questions! So without further ado, here are some of your questions paired with the most popular posts from the past 10 years. …
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If only you knew (what it’s really like to write)

Over a dozen of you wrote to me last week to share how much the missive meant to you. Thank you. As I read message after message, I shook my head and thought, “Wow. If only they knew.” Then I realized that perhaps it’s right that you DO know. The morning I wrote that missive, I did not bounce out of bed with a smile. Like so many other parents in this COVID time, my husband and I have been caring for our baby for 2 months without outside help, while both running our businesses. We’re thankful to have that ...
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All the things we need to drop (and one that remains)

Do you remember the 1998 movie You’ve Got Mail, when Joe Fox and Kathleen Kelly were both so darn PSYCHED to read their email? For all their differences, the characters had this in common: They loved logging onto AOL, hearing those dulcet dial-up tones and the voice saying, “You’ve Got Mail!” And after they deleted the spam, typically they only had ONE real email waiting for them. I woke up with that image in my mind the other day: An near-empty inbox. Just one message that really meant something. …
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I couldn’t get this off my mind

There is a man who lives down the road from me in Alabama. Let’s call him Andy, because that is nothing like his name. One of the very first things you’d notice about Andy is that he smokes. His clothes smell of it, and he has a metal pail on his front porch where he drops cigarette butts so they don’t light the house on fire. Most evenings you’ll see him out there, standing by door and smoking. He’ll wave to you politely through the puffs. …
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Manage Your Mind and Make Progress: A 5 Day Challenge!

Welcome to our new 5 day challenge video series, Manage Your Mind & Make Progress: Break Through the Negative Thought Patterns That Hold You Back. In this series, you’ll learn: The #1 reason why you haven’t been able to shift your negative thought patterns up until now A proven escape hatch from the pain of negative thoughts How to retrain your brain and stop procrastinating What to do when managing your mind just isn’t working! How to stand in your power and choose wisely Thank you to everyone who submitted their painful thoughts; press play and learn how to handle ...
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How to Break Through Negative Thought Patterns

Can I get real with you right now? I did something crazy this summer. (It’s kind of embarrassing, but it’s coming up as a story that needs to be told. I’ve learned over the years to pay attention to this feeling, to put aside my ego and be of service.) Here’s what happened. After the epic labor and birth of our baby – which I have compared to being in a street fight with my own body – I needed surgery. Afterward, the nurse offered me a Motrin. Given that, you know, the anesthetic was going to wear off, and ...
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If I had to give one piece of advice …

I love Glennon Doyle’s take on advice, which is basically: Don’t give it. Even when people ask for advice, she says, what they really want is to be heard. So ask good questions, listen, and give love instead. Yet I’m also a sucker for a good modern advice column, such as Dear Sugar or Ask Polly. But … the great thing about those columns is that they tell stories more than they give advice, right? The authors open up about their lives, and by doing so, they free us to see our own lives differently. So let me tell you ...
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Don’t Give Up in the Eleventh Hour

“How do I not give up in the eleventh hour?” This is a heartfelt listener question, and I take it seriously. Here’s my short answer (which connects to the theme of our featured interview this week): Don’t be that mean to yourself. …
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What to Do When You’re Drowning in Overwhelm

“Help, I’m overwhelmed! If you are feeling overwhelmed, how to do you slow down to know what to focus on?  Should I focus on decluttering and mediation first then let whatever happens happens or should I actively try to find my purpose?” …
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