You get to trust your intuition
Dear readers, if you missed last week’s missive, please go there first. It’s time to listen and learn from the people who are doing the hard work of shifting and healing systemic racism. Also, when that email went out, the blog post link to Krystle’s free offerings was outdated. Learn more about Krystle’s work at her website. Thank you to everyone who listened and wrote in, I’m grateful. *** Whenever I ask for your feedback, a significant percentage of you say that you want to hear more about honoring and trusting your intuition. So that’s what I want to talk...
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There is a way, and you will find it.
Have you ever had a strong sense that there was something you were meant to do … but then second-guessed that knowing, because you couldn’t see how it would work? Ever spent time in silence, getting clear on what you yearn for … and then felt a vicious wave of doubt knock you down? I get it. I see it in my own life, and in my work with private coaching clients. Often we pretend that the problem is not knowing what we want … when the truth is that we DO know, we just don’t see a way forward....
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So I Wrote You a Fairy Tale (For Real)
I started writing a book back in 2015. After about a million rewrites, I’m very happy to share that You Don’t Owe Anyone will be published by Broadleaf Books a year from yesterday, on April 20, 2021. It’s a book about what happens when you decide to free yourself from the weight of expectations, both internal and external. It’s one woman’s story of trying so very hard to be perfect, then learning to trust herself instead. It’s a modern twist on divine grace; You Don’t Owe Anyone is what happens when you realize that you have no relational debt to...
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I used to keep this quiet
There’s a quiet, poignant scene at the beginning of Eat Pray Love, where Liz Gilbert reads a line from a Louise Gluck poem: “From the center of my life, there came a great fountain…” This is what I think of when I go for daily walks with Baby Girl. Each morning, we set out with the stroller. On our way home, I steer us toward the fountain downtown. The closer we get, the more attentive Baby Girl becomes. We circle the perimeter, and her eyes go wide. I can only imagine what she’s thinking, what it feels like for her...
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Say goodbye to second-guessing yourself
Don’t you just love those moments in life when you have total, complete clarity? When all at once there is ZERO ambiguity, and you know exactly what’s most important to you? Even if it’s hard, even if it’s going to stretch you to the limit … there is beauty in knowing precisely what needs to happen next. It’s the moment when you KNOW … It’s time to quit. It’s time to start. This is over. This is beginning. I’m going to marry him. She’ll be my friend for life. …
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You Need to Hear These 6 Words Today
“Walk like you’re one inch taller.” Dawn, my new physical therapist, was coaching me to walk properly last week. She’s helping me to improve my posture and alignment in order to heal from birth injuries. As you’d imagine, I’m taking this work seriously. I’m on time for every appointment, giving each exercise my all. But those 6 words nearly stopped me in my tracks. The ears of my soul perked up, like a cat at the sound of kibble. That’s what my body feels like when it hears something true; my inner animal snaps to attention. …
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Decision Making Is a One Way Street
I’ll never forget the night I drove across the George Washington Bridge by accident. It was 2010, and I’d just dropped some friends off at a train station in New Jersey. In a moment of distraction, I missed my turn on the unfamiliar, dark streets. That’s how I found myself on a one-way road heading straight toward the bridge and into New York City. There was no changing course or correcting the mistake. If I wanted to get home to New Jersey, I’d need to pay the $8.00 toll, cross the bridge, then get back on course. Now, this was...
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Torn Between Personal Growth and Career Success?
“How do I know when I need to focus more on personal growth, and when to focus more on career success?” This listener question from The Clarity Course Series illumines a popular assumption. We believe that our personal growth doesn’t feed our career success, and vice versa. But what if we can’t separate them into neat boxes? What if they’re intertwined? …
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Making Time to Go After Goals
“How can I have the confidence to make the time to go after my goals when my brain tells me they are frivolous?” “How can I be more efficient with my use of time … and fit exercise into an already packed schedule? [Housework, part-time employment, half-time Ph.D. studies, dependent elderly father 90 minutes away refusing to consider moving into care.]” Boy oh boy, could I relate to these listener questions from The Clarity Course Series. Though our circumstances are different, I know what it’s like to work big goals into an already-full life. …
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Make Decisions, Save Your Life
Even though I was scared, my coach challenged me to do it, so I did. What’s that, you say? I recorded a new, vulnerable video for you. It’s based on questions I received via The Clarity Course survey … “I want to trust my decisions, but I always see both sides (take the opportunity or don’t take). Is there a process that I can go through that will make decision making easier?” “Best advice for someone who is struggling with the fear of uncertainty in making decisions?” …
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