I used to keep this quiet

There’s a quiet, poignant scene at the beginning of Eat Pray Love, where Liz Gilbert reads a line from a Louise Gluck poem: “From the center of my life, there came a great fountain…” This is what I think of when I go for daily walks with Baby Girl. Each morning, we set out with the stroller. On our way home, I steer us toward the fountain downtown. The closer we get, the more attentive Baby Girl becomes. We circle the perimeter, and her eyes go wide. I can only imagine what she’s thinking, what it feels like for her ...
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I couldn’t get this off my mind

There is a man who lives down the road from me in Alabama. Let’s call him Andy, because that is nothing like his name. One of the very first things you’d notice about Andy is that he smokes. His clothes smell of it, and he has a metal pail on his front porch where he drops cigarette butts so they don’t light the house on fire. Most evenings you’ll see him out there, standing by door and smoking. He’ll wave to you politely through the puffs. …
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Say goodbye to second-guessing yourself

Don’t you just love those moments in life when you have total, complete clarity? When all at once there is ZERO ambiguity, and you know exactly what’s most important to you? Even if it’s hard, even if it’s going to stretch you to the limit … there is beauty in knowing precisely what needs to happen next. It’s the moment when you KNOW … It’s time to quit. It’s time to start. This is over. This is beginning. I’m going to marry him. She’ll be my friend for life. …
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Manage Your Mind and Make Progress: A 5 Day Challenge!

Welcome to our new 5 day challenge video series, Manage Your Mind & Make Progress: Break Through the Negative Thought Patterns That Hold You Back. In this series, you’ll learn: The #1 reason why you haven’t been able to shift your negative thought patterns up until now A proven escape hatch from the pain of negative thoughts How to retrain your brain and stop procrastinating What to do when managing your mind just isn’t working! How to stand in your power and choose wisely Thank you to everyone who submitted their painful thoughts; press play and learn how to handle ...
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How to Break Through Negative Thought Patterns

Can I get real with you right now? I did something crazy this summer. (It’s kind of embarrassing, but it’s coming up as a story that needs to be told. I’ve learned over the years to pay attention to this feeling, to put aside my ego and be of service.) Here’s what happened. After the epic labor and birth of our baby – which I have compared to being in a street fight with my own body – I needed surgery. Afterward, the nurse offered me a Motrin. Given that, you know, the anesthetic was going to wear off, and ...
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Good news: You already have confidence and clarity

This week I had one of those “Sliding Doors” moments – when you can see two different choices, two possible futures spinning out in front of you. What happened was that I did a brave thing and signed up for an adult ballet class. I haven’t done ballet in years, but a conversation with a friend spurred me to act. I was proud of myself … For listening to that desire to dance. For staying focused and eagerly accepting corrections from the teacher. For going to someplace I’d never been and dancing with people I’d never met (and alone as ...
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If I had to give one piece of advice …

I love Glennon Doyle’s take on advice, which is basically: Don’t give it. Even when people ask for advice, she says, what they really want is to be heard. So ask good questions, listen, and give love instead. Yet I’m also a sucker for a good modern advice column, such as Dear Sugar or Ask Polly. But … the great thing about those columns is that they tell stories more than they give advice, right? The authors open up about their lives, and by doing so, they free us to see our own lives differently. So let me tell you ...
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Don’t give up before the miracle

It’s the end of a seemingly ordinary workday when an email from the senior editor at the publishing house arrives. The subject line is, “Offer of contract coming on Friday.” I gasp. Does this mean what I think it means? I click to open the email, chanting, “Oh my God oh my God oh my God.” It does mean what I think it means. It means that after weeks of waiting and years of work, Broadleaf Books is offering me a book deal. …
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You Need to Hear These 6 Words Today

“Walk like you’re one inch taller.” Dawn, my new physical therapist, was coaching me to walk properly last week. She’s helping me to improve my posture and alignment in order to heal from birth injuries. As you’d imagine, I’m taking this work seriously. I’m on time for every appointment, giving each exercise my all. But those 6 words nearly stopped me in my tracks. The ears of my soul perked up, like a cat at the sound of kibble. That’s what my body feels like when it hears something true; my inner animal snaps to attention. …
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Decision Making Is a One Way Street

I’ll never forget the night I drove across the George Washington Bridge by accident. It was 2010, and I’d just dropped some friends off at a train station in New Jersey. In a moment of distraction, I missed my turn on the unfamiliar, dark streets. That’s how I found myself on a one-way road heading straight toward the bridge and into New York City. There was no changing course or correcting the mistake. If I wanted to get home to New Jersey, I’d need to pay the $8.00 toll, cross the bridge, then get back on course. Now, this was ...
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