A Wish Come Clear

Choosing Love, Losing Fear, & Finding Home

To the Writer Who is Just Starting Out

One of my closest friends from Vassar once told me about how he saw Maroon 5 play before they hit the big-time. It was at a bar in Boston, as I recall. I was quite impressed, because at the time, “Songs About Jane” was everywhere. It played at parties, at [...]

One Question To Ask When the Going Gets Tough

On my first day of kindergarten, my mom gave me some advice. She told me what her mother told her on the first day of school: when you walk through the doors, don’t worry about making friends. Just focus on finding the girl who looks even more upset about all [...]

On Showing Up & Showing Love (Even if You’re ‘Too Busy’)

Last year, I accompanied my husband Jonathan to the dentist. He needed a crown on a broken tooth, and – though he wouldn’t say it in so many words – he was a tad anxious about it. I inferred anxiety based on comments like, “Caroline! What if, when I open [...]

When is it OK to Put Aside Productivity and Go Hands Free?

Dear friends, Once upon a December afternoon, I decided to bake cookies for a party. I could have skipped it; in fact, I nearly talked myself out of it. Baking is not the most efficient use of my time. Nevertheless, I chose it because it felt like Christmas, like celebration. [...]