A Wish Come Clear

Choosing Love, Losing Fear, & Finding Home


Loving people? Not easy.


Worth it? Unquestionably.


  • I love my kids so much, but the littlest things they do drive me completely insane. How can I accept them as they are?

  • I‘m good at taking care of other people, but I don’t know what I need half the time. I feel lost; will I ever be found?

If you can relate to these questions, welcome. You’re in the right place.

This community celebrates things that others overlook. We uncover sacred stories within our ordinary days. Despite distractions and doubts and difficulties, we persevere in our relationships. We welcome the stranger, because we know that — if we keep our eyes and hearts open – we’ll recognize them as family.


A Wish Come Clear is about telling true stories, with the purpose of helping you find meaning in your most challenging relationships.

Because let’s be honest: loving people is hard. At times the people in your life can make you so mad that you are driven to smash a guitar to smithereens. And conversely, relationships can transform you. They can hold you up, teaching you how to let go of fear and dance. That’s certainly been the case for me.

If that’s true for you, too …

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Caroline McGraw, Treasure Hunter

I’m a would-be childhood paleontologist turned storyteller, digging for treasure in people and uncovering sacred stories in ordinary days. (It’s even better than dinosaur bones.)

Why do I do what I do? It began with my younger brother Willie, who came up with the name, ‘A Wish Come Clear.’ Willie is brilliant, funny, talented, and autistic.

And when he became a teenager, he started having serious behavioral issues, including aggression and self-injury. To say that our relationship was challenging is an understatement. I was scared to sleep in the room next to his.

Willie’s doing better now, but he still has hard days. And I’m still learning what it means to love someone as they are, not as I wish they would be.


After moving out of the room next door to Willie’s and graduating from Vassar College, I joined the L’Arche DC community. (L’Arche is an international faith-based non-profit organization that creates homes where people with and without intellectual disabilities share life.)

I thought I came to serve, but really, I came to be healed. I came to learn about being in relationship, about giving and receiving. Thanks to my time at L’Arche, I found a way to forgive my brother for his rages, and myself for not being able to make them go away.


A Wish Come Clear, Then & Now

When I began A Wish Come Clear in January 2011, it made sense that I was sharing special needs-centric stories each week, since I was working full-time for L’Arche. But now, the stories I have to share aren’t the same. They’ve changed as my life has changed.

I spent five years at L’Arche, and those years prepared me to step into the life I have now, the one I’ve always wanted: that of a full-time writer.

As such, 2013 marked a new welcome and a fresh start for our community. Now, I focus on our mission – helping you find meaning in your most challenging relationships – in a new way.

Why? Because when I look at you, dear readers, I see a diverse group.

I see caregivers who support adults with dementia, and parents of children on the autism spectrum. And I also see life coaches, parents, spiritual seekers, fellow writers, artists, and creatives.

I see a community that celebrates what others overlook. I see people who want to go deep and look beyond the surface, people who know that there are sacred stories to be uncovered within our ordinary days.


But all that said, I can hear what you’re thinking: what does a would-be childhood paleontologist do?

  • I’m an author. I’ve written several books, and I’m always working on the next. I’ve wanted to be an author ever since the day I held my first book in my hands, in the first grade. I did consider becoming an actual paleontologist, but I figured out that writing was a way of ‘excavating’ without having to get covered in dirt and take too many science courses. As Clarissa Pinkola Estes wrote, “Collecting stories is a constant paleontologic endeavor.”
  • I’m a copywriter. I specialize in creating web copy for non-profits and small businesses that support individuals with special needs, helping them feel confident about sharing their work with the world. As Justin Jackson wrote, “Words don’t come after the design is done. Words are the beginning, the core, the focus. Start with words.”
  • I’m a speaker. I speak to people who wonder: What if we dedicated ourselves to creating a world in which we celebrate people not just for what they can do, but for who they are and how they are able to love? I’m an introvert, but even so, I love getting up in front of a crowd and telling true stories. As Glennon Melton of Momastery wrote, “I’d rather give a speech to five hundred people than go to a party.”

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