In certain Native American traditions, artisans weave small, purposeful ‘mistakes’ into each blanket. Why? Because they believe that the ‘mistake’ is the very place that allows Spirit to move in and out of the fabric. And that’s exactly what perfectionists like us need to hear.
A Wish Come Clear is a place for recovering perfectionists, for those of us who get lost in unrealistic expectations, criticism, and shame.
We struggle with a desire for control, and we try to avoid mistakes at all costs. But we are also the ones who try again, the ones who ask for and offer forgiveness.
We are adventurers, exploring the most difficult and rewarding terrain on Earth: the human mind and heart. Though we care about spirituality and personal growth, we aren’t looking for dogma, top 10 lists, or pat answers. Instead, we seek out true, resonant stories.
For us, stories are like mirrors, both reflecting our current condition and illuminating a way forward. Through stories, we start remembering what we already know: every one of us has something to offer, and we don’t have to be perfect to be loved and accepted.
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Why A Wish Come Clear?
The phrase, “A Wish Come Clear” is my younger brother Willie’s brainchild. Willie is smart, creative, and funny. He also has autism, and his favorite humor involves purposeful mistakes. He loves plugging the ‘wrong’ word into the ‘right’ phrase. Instead of quoting the correct line from a Disney movie, he’ll say, “A dream is a wish your …fart… makes!” or, “A wish come … clear!”
I chose the name as a small rebellion against my own high-achieving, ‘be perfect or else’ mentality. A Wish Come Clear is my ‘purposeful mistake’, a space through which Spirit can move.
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Choosing Love (“Getting perspective and attending to the essentials”)
Stories of small, practical, everyday choices … because they all add up and interconnect. Even on hard days, we can make the conscious choice to choose love and truth and reality over illusions like ‘always being right’ and ‘pretending to have it all together.’
Losing Fear (“Active rebellion and the gift of doing things differently”)
Acknowledging that we will always feel fear, but that it doesn’t need to guide our actions. We admit our fears, doubts, and struggles; we make unconventional choices and let go of preconceived ideas. And when we are vulnerable (weak) in this way, we paradoxically become strong.
Finding Home (“Celebrating and accepting people as they are”)
Getting real about who we are, connecting with others and dropping our masks (thereby inviting them to drop theirs). Being kind and setting boundaries so we can be present without resentment.
Experiencing grace, as defined by Frederick Buechner: “The grace of God means something like: Here is your life. You might never have been, but you are because the party wouldn’t be complete without you.”